As I sit on the couch watching the monkey play I start to think...
What will life be like once husband is home?
How is he going to fit into all of my craziness?
I have been alone with the monkey since husband left in October, Monkey was barely 5 months old. I have developed routines, my own way of how things get done. Now husband will come home, we will be finding our own place and then its just us...
I am sure this is normal to worry about...
We had the, your son may not really understand who you are talk. He gets it, has already prepared himself and is going on the expect the worse path. I think I am worse off then he is. I want so bad for monkey to just know his dad. Be immediately comfortable. I know there is a chance this wont happen, that it wont be like that, that there will be an adjustment period for Monkey....I just don't want it to be like that.
I was smart and decided to ask the Monkey's pediatrician about it. He gave me some tips I never even thought about. Especially since he is so little...
He told me, to greet husband alone at first. Since our emotions will be high, it might be overwhelming for monkey. Then, I alone take him to his dada. The more people around the more overwhelming it can be for him, but be careful not to seperate him from all of the people who are familiar to him. Then let the rest follow as normal routine, or as normal as possible, letting husband be apart of everything without just giving him the monkey and walking away. (I hope that all made sense)
And I still don't know...maybe some of you who have dealt witht he returns with little ones can give a mama some advice?
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Hey, have you read my Homecoming stuff... I think I posted a couple things about it, including one called "I didn't promise you a rose garden".
I brought Riley to the Homecoming. It was after midnight when we went so I didn't expect much anyways. But Riley was sooo excited. She was looking at everyone and was perfectly fine UNTIL some Gunny yelled for the guys to fall out and Riley started crying. It wasn't a perfect homecoming but it was important to me that she was there.
It took about a day and half after that but now, you'd never guess that Matt wasn't around for Riley's whole life. She loves him!
If you have any more questions you can email me!
xx
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